3 Telltale Signs That You Might Be A Jackhole

Good, better and best conceptYou know I am all about a strong, confident woman. I want you to be bold, and brave, and to bring your best self to every situation.

But here’s a little KG-logic…There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.

In the words of the late great Johnny Cash, it’s important to walk the line.

And often those who teeter on the line aren’t self aware enough to even realize it. So I thought I’d give you a short list of telltale signs that you might be a jackhole. So we can fix it, of course.

Fasten your seatbelt ’cause here we go.


If you have to tell people how smart you are, how successful you are, or how much money you make…you might be walking the jackhole line.

Years ago, I had an employee who managed to work it into just about every conversation that he was a member of Mensa. Ummm…don’t be that guy! Or gal. Wait. I hate the word gal. I mean, who says gal?!? I don’t. I won’t. So it’s gotta be guy. In the unisex kinda way.

Wow. I digress.

But the moral of this story is simply…don’t be that guy.


If you have to be the center of every conversation, and bring every topic back to yourself, or an experience you have had, you might want to look in a mirror to see if you are that guy.

There’s nothing more annoying, or unflattering, or unappealing than the game of one-up-man-ship. That is one game you do not ever want to win. And remember – the sound of your own voice may not be as delightful to others as it is to you.


If you think you are always right or believe that your way is the only way, you may be walking that line.

Often in life, there are no truly right or wrong answers. Most of the time it’s just a matter of perspective.

So let me put it into perspective.

Confidence is a critical success factor in life. Arrogance is a caution sign for insecurity.

It takes courage to be confident and, surprisingly, a good dose of vulnerability. My greatest confidence-boosting tip for you is to be authentic. Always be your authentic, awesome Y-O-U.

And, let’s be honest…I never thought that you might be a jackhole. I mean, come on. You’re part of the Moxie Squad. No jackholes allowed. I just wanted to make sure you were paying attention. Ha!

Moxie Magic: Don’t be a jackhole…like it, share it, tweet it, pin it, +1 it, to spread the word. Ha. I love you guys! xo. ~KG 

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  1. Well, I’m pretty sure that I’m not a jackhole, but I do regularly check myself to make sure I’m not exhibiting any of the tell-tale behaviors! A variation of the one-up-man-ship behavior that I despise is the person who is clearly not even listening to what you have to say because he or she can’t wait to talk about their experience, story or idea.

  2. GURL – You HIT it. Unfortunately only non-jackholes recognize jackholes. They can’t hear or see anything but themselves. Kind of like vampires. They suck the energy and life out of you. Maybe we should carry around mirrors so they can see what they really look like to people around them – NOTHING. A fake mirror – one that doesn’t reflect – would be a perfect gift for a jackhole!!! It would drive them crazy that they couldn’t see themselves!

  3. I’m fairly certain you’re not a jackhole either, Lori! Ha. And, I’ve experienced said jackholes that you reference. Makes me crazy. Grrrrrr. xo.

  4. Melinda! You are cracking me up! Jackhole = vampire. Interesting theory. Except I like vampires better. xo.

  5. This post is awesome, don’t know why I love the word “jackhole.” lol And I used to have a PartyGal business, and just the fact that “Gal” was in the biz name made me not value what I was selling.

    Anywho, I totally agree with you KG, it’s the 3 things we have to get past… the need to be liked, the need to be loved, and the need to be right…

    Being liked and loved (though they feel great) are inside jobs and needing to be right all the time.. well that really gets annoying after while, and might make you a “jackhole.”

    All good things!


  6. Thanks for chiming in, JeeJee! {I love the word jackhole too! It comes compliments of Andy Cohen, who is on Bravo TV. Cracks me up every time!} xo.

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