Do you feel like a fraud?

businesswoman with feet on table taking off shoesOkay, it’s time to spill the beans. Have you ever had the following freak out moment?

You’re screaming in your mind, “I feel like a fraud! Someone is gonna figure it out any day now.”

BREAKING NEWS: You’re not alone!

In fact, a big, fat 98% of women question their ability.

This thing called the “imposter syndrome” was actually discovered (by women, of course) in 1978. And according to researchers on the phenomenon, not much has changed in the last three decades—except that more women than ever are susceptible.

Whaaat?!?

Have you ever credited your success to luck, the fact that you’ve flown under the radar, that you’re a smooth talker, or it happened just because people like you?

Think about it. You’ve dismissed your accomplishments like this at one time or another in the past, haven’t you?

Here’s the deal: The risk of feeling you’re not good enough brings into play that darn Law of Attraction. We become what we think. So, you don’t want to make this a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The key is to challenge your own self-doubt and kick it to the curb.

Here are some words of wisdom from your ass kicking, truth telling, angel/warrior.

I’m gonna break it down into simple speak.

You’re not fooling anybody…except yourself.

You really ARE as amazing as everyone thinks. Zip it – you are!

You have mad skillz. You do.

In fact, your unique talents can have a profound impact on this world. You just have to believe. (And take action!)

I think it’s time for you to just say “eff it” and set yourself free. Don’t you?

Share your Moxie: Do you ever feel like you’re pretending to be all that and worry that someone will find out who you really are? How does it interfere with your work or success? Be brave and share your story in the comments below. Then share this article with every woman you know. She needs it. xo. ~KG

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4 Comments

  1. Thanks for this post Kelli – perfect timing for me! I’ve been in a rut lately wondering how I’ve managed to get where I am and when I’m going to be called out. Thanks for the words of encouragement letting me know that I’m not alone. I must remind myself that I have worked hard to get where I am today!

  2. Jackie Jenkins says:

    It’s great to have the wise support of Kelli to remind us that we belong and have earned a spot at the table! Love it, thanks!

  3. For Real — I hear you.
    We got to where we are for a reason .. you can also be stuck where you are because you forgot or denied how you go to that place. Time to leap outta the rut ..

  4. I definitely worry about those things. I have a Psychology degree but I am doing marketing for an engineering firm. I feel underpaid because I don’t have a marketing degree and I started out as an admin assistant and although marketing is my responsibility I am still heavily depended upon for admin tasks. My coworkers say how great of a worker I am and are appreciative of me – I don’t feel as appreciated by the people who sign my checks. I’ve been given advice like – get your MBA and that will prove to the bosses how serious you are. I don’t have $50,000 to get another degree right now. I’ve also been told I get paid what the “market” is paying others that do the same work. I’ve done my own research that tells me otherwise. But I am scared of making them angry for wanting more and I am also scared of what is next if I don’t get what I want. But I definitely need to take your advice and stop playing out the situation in my head. I’ve just had multiple unsuccessful discussions about this with my boss – I choke up when they start grilling me with questions like “well what do you think you should be making, what do you think others are getting paid, and once admin gets situated we can discuss further”. I think my skills have only gotten me more work with no increase in pay because of my lack of credentials. I need to take action and be fearless. Thanks for your advice!

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