rejectionRejection. What a crappy word. No one enjoys being rejected, eliminated, dismissed, spurned!

But it’s a part of life. It hurts and sometimes you have no idea why you weren’t “the one.”

I want to give you some tips to help you look at “rejection” as nothing more than a minor fact. Not a failure.


Don’t take it personally.

I know, I know. You’re saying, “Come on, THAT’S IMPOSSIBLE!”

Well, let’s consider your black pants.

Black pants?


What…you have a pair, right? Of course you do.

If you’re like me, when you shopped for said black pants, you probably found five pairs made by different brands, all in your size and took them into the dressing room. Did they all fit the same way? Nope. I’ll bet they weren’t even the same shade of black! So you chose the pair that was the best fit – most comfortable, made you look your best and right for your budget.

Did you reject the four other pairs of black pants? Ummmm, technically, yes, but you probably didn’t associate it with any emotion. You chose one pair because they were right for you.

Well, Tiger, that is exactly what an employer, a client, a manager does when they select someone.

Rejection Rewrite:

I wasn’t rejected. They chose someone else.

Not someone better, smarter, prettier, taller, skinnier, older, younger, blonder, whiter, blacker, or any other “er”.

Just someone else.

No drama.

Here’s another one:

It’s not you. It’s them.

It really IS them.

People make decisions on whom they select based on many, many factors. Some are obvious and easy to understand. Some are just plain personal and you couldn’t possibly guess what they are.

Things you can’t possibly ever, ever anticipate or control:

You look like their cousin.

You DON’T look like their cousin.

You sound like their favorite elementary school teacher.

Your nose is the same shape as their ex-boyfriend’s.

See? It’s really personal – to THEM.

So take your time, energy, focus and emotion off of WHY it wasn’t YOU.

Things YOU do have control over:

Your: experience, education, skills, body language, tone of voice, attire, hairstyle, and of course how you ‘bring it’ to OWN that room!

Stay focused on what you are looking for. It’s all about finding YOUR perfect fit! Got it? Good. xoxo. ~KG

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