How do YOU take a compliment?

an embarrassed woman biting on her lip“Your hair looks great,” or “I love that suit,” or “Great job on that project,” says your friend, colleague, or manager.

Do you (a) respond with a quick “thank you” and beam because someone noticed, or (b) brush off the remark and make it sound like it’s no big deal, or (c) make a face that tells them you think they are crazy?

If you chose b or c, you are not alone. Many women just can’t bring themselves to say thank you and then zip-it when complimented.

I’m eyeballing you.

You might feel uncomfortable accepting praise from others. You might not want to be perceived as being full of yourself or self-centered. You might even feel like the person giving the compliment is wrong, and that you don’t “deserve” to be complimented.

Well…you’re sending, and BELIEVING, mixed messages.

You know that you “should” love yourself and be confident in your abilities and in your own skin, yet there’s an unexplainable feeling that doesn’t allow you to admit loudly that your hair does indeed look good, your suit is awesome, or you kicked ass on that project. I mean, those around you might think you’re arrogant or conceited.

If you feel deep down (and this is a deep issue) that boldy accepting positive things about yourself is a show of arrogance, then forget about it. You’ve got some re-conditioning to do!

I want you to be comfortable enough with yourself to accept the highest praise about your work, your appearance, your generosity, your talents, and your <fill in the blank>.

Let’s figure out how to simply say thank you, fast.

This would be a great time to take a lesson from your male counterparts. When men walk into a room, they rarely seem to care who’s better dressed than them, or even who’s looking. Give them a compliment, and they’ll take it and not make a fuss out of it. That’s a good thing.

Now I ask you… how do YOU take a compliment? {Spoiler alert} With a smile and a thank you from this minute forward.

One last thing: “You are so smart!”

I better see some “thank you” comments below! High five!

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  1. Good job, Melinda! 🙂

  2. Thank you

  3. Awesome, Shaun!

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